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identity. belonging. expat life.

Who you are. How you feel inside. Where you live.


As an artist, I illustrate and educate about marginalised experiences for positive change.

With a focus on identity, belonging and expat life, I help people to navigate β€˜otherness’.

‘OTHERNESS’ isolates.

It creates division, prejudice and suffering.

We are all someone else’s ‘other’

Drawn to a Story exists to redress the imbalance

DRAWN TO A STORY with Cath Brew

With a surname like Brew, I think it’s just plain rude to not drink coffee. Right?

Drinking coffee creates space for me to reflect, listen deeply and ignite transformation within others.

Let my clients tell you for themselves:





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Firstly, there is no shame. If this is you, there Firstly, there is no shame. 
If this is you, there is no shame. We do what we can.

We all find different coping strategies useful and they change depending on how big or small the pressures are. 

And equally, we know deep down when they are no longer a coping strategy, but rather a crutch - that thing we use to hide, rather than deal with what we are avoiding.

That is okay too. I've been there. 

What's not okay, is choosing to stay there - especially if it is negatively impacting the people we love around us. 

THEN - it's time to look within. The coping strategy is just the shield we use, thinking that it protects us. Try looking deeper. The root of the problem is behind the coping strategy.

Firstly, there is no shame.
If this is you, there is no shame. We do what we can.

We all find different coping strategies useful and they change depending on how big or small the pressures are.

And equally, we know deep down when they are no longer a coping strategy, but rather a crutch - that thing we use to hide, rather than deal with what we are avoiding.

That is okay too. I've been there.

What's not okay, is choosing to stay there - especially if it is negatively impacting the people we love around us.

THEN - it's time to look within. The coping strategy is just the shield we use, thinking that it protects us. Try looking deeper. The root of the problem is behind the coping strategy.
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Proud to have designed this book. It's a much need Proud to have designed this book. It's a much needed resource for women and men. 

So exciting to have a hardcopy in my hands!!

Available on Amazon, Book Depository and other online bookstores.

Need your book designed? Give me a shout 😊

#bookdesign #bookdesigner #sexism #womeninbusiness #womenempowerment #standuptosexism #words #cathbrew #wordsmatter #summertimepublishing #newbookstagram #bookcover #booklover #saynotosexism #bookrecommendations #womanauthor #womensstudies #practical #selfhelpbooks #selfhelp

Proud to have designed this book. It's a much needed resource for women and men.

So exciting to have a hardcopy in my hands!!

Available on Amazon, Book Depository and other online bookstores.

Need your book designed? Give me a shout 😊

#bookdesign #bookdesigner #sexism #womeninbusiness #womenempowerment #standuptosexism #words #cathbrew #wordsmatter #summertimepublishing #newbookstagram #bookcover #booklover #saynotosexism #bookrecommendations #womanauthor #womensstudies #practical #selfhelpbooks #selfhelp
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Are you a #proudally? Show your support and buy yo Are you a #proudally?
Show your support and buy yours now. 

Available at www.drawntoastory.com/clothing

Are you a #proudally?
Show your support and buy yours now.

Available at http://www.drawntoastory.com/clothing
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THIS WEEK: 5 real-life cases of being an ally. Thi THIS WEEK: 5 real-life cases of being an ally. This is how it's done.

THIS WEEK: 5 real-life cases of being an ally. This is how it's done. ...

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FOR SALE: 'The Global Mind' Notebook
Only Β£8.25. Great for travelling.

Available at http://www.drawntoastory.com/shop/
Postage to anywhere in the world.
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Toxic positivity....

Most of the 'positive' memes on social media don't actually help people. Disguised as feelgood messages, all they actually do is rub salt into your wounds.

If you're thinking, huh?, let me show you what I mean.

"YOU ARE ENOUGH". It's lovely right? Wrong.

'Enough' implies that your desire for wanting more isn't appropriate. Yes, you don't need to be more to be loved, to be respected, to feel safe, BUT.... this still refers to you in a role, your role in relation to other people.

What about your role in relation to you? Regardless of your relationships to others, you are an individual with your own dreams and desires? What do you want to create for YOU? Can you see how 'you are enough' removes you from the centre of your world and makes you an appendage to someone else's?

How about you put you at the centre of your world?

Toxic positivity creates an environment where it actually has the opposite affect to being positive. It creates doubt, it sets up a false standard of 'goodness' with unrealistic ideas to strive for. If we don't achieve that state, have we failed? Are we 'less than' because we don't feel 'positive' like it says we should?

It's okay to not feel okay and it's okay to not want to feel okay. If we don't sometimes allow ourselves a 'pity party', we gaslight ourselves and we never allow time to process our emotions.

This is critical. Our bodies and brains need down time. A pity party is your body's way of saying, 'hey I need time out.'

Take it. Own it.

Just don't stay there for too long.
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You all know that I'm all about being professional, but also about not projecting something I'm not. This is the KEY to identity and belonging. You can't belong if you're projecting a false idea of yourself.

A while ago I saw a video about how to create your 'photo shoot look'.

1. Raise your eyebrows.
2. Smile with your whole face.
3. Drop the smile of your mouth.
= your photo shoot look!

What do ya reckon? How did I go? πŸ™‚
Have I got the photo shoot look sorted?

I'm not sure it's my thing. 🀩

What's more me, is rejecting the status quo that expects women to look a certain way, to behave a certain way and to believe that they need to.

Be yourself. It's far more enjoyable and it destabilizes the status quo. Who's with me?
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⭐️Rated 5 STARS on Amazon and Good Reads ⭐️
Get your copy of LIVING ELSEWHERE now.

https://www.bookdepository.com/Living-Elsewhere/9781999732325

⭐️Rated 5 STARS on Amazon and Good Reads ⭐️
Get your copy of LIVING ELSEWHERE now.

https://www.bookdepository.com/Living-Elsewhere/9781999732325
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The great British/Australian divide!! You can alwa The great British/Australian divide!!
You can always tell who's been away in our house by the position of the vegemite and marmite in the cupboard. 

Clearly the bottom picture shows that order has been restored πŸ€£πŸ‡¦πŸ‡Ί

The great British/Australian divide!!
You can always tell who's been away in our house by the position of the vegemite and marmite in the cupboard.

Clearly the bottom picture shows that order has been restored πŸ€£πŸ‡¦πŸ‡Ί
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I'll be discussing:
1) Blood donation ban eased for gay and bi men.
2) Anti LGBTQ+ laws are one of the biggest barriers to staff moving abroad.
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FOR SALE: 'From the Heart' t-shirt πŸ’œπŸ’›πŸ’š Available from the Drawn to a Story store.

http://www.drawntoastory.com/shop/from-the-heart-t-shirt/
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THIS WEEK: 1) Blood donation ban eased for gay an THIS WEEK: 
1) Blood donation ban eased for gay and bi men.
2) Anti LGBTQ+ laws are one of the biggest barriers to staff moving abroad.

THIS WEEK:
1) Blood donation ban eased for gay and bi men.
2) Anti LGBTQ+ laws are one of the biggest barriers to staff moving abroad.
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Envy is a strange thing. Who knew that you could Envy is a strange thing. 
Who knew that you could have neck-hair envy? 

My wife and I were laughing last weekend because she loves how my hair comes to a point, but doesn't like hers as it's more of a horizontal line.

Of all the things to be envious of 🀣

She's not generally a jealous or envious person, so it really stuck out to me.

Are you?
How does it make you feel?
Unhappy because you're comparing yourself to someone else? If so, have you noticed the moment of change?

There is a split second of transition. 

We're feeling happy enough. We see something that we like and our brains instantly start to talk to us, "I like that. I would love to have that. I wish I did. How did 'they' get that? Why don't I have that? I want it but I don't know how to get it. Why do I never get things like that? I always miss out. I wish I was as lucky as them. I can't ever get the things I want."

See the pattern?
We slowly spiral ourselves downwards with unhelpful, unproven and untrue statements that quickly decrease our emotional power.

If you find yourself doing this, catch it with the biggest softball glove you can find. The softness of the glove protects your heart a little more than its hardness into bare hands. 

Catch it. 

Say hello without judgement.

Ask it, "is that really true?"

If it argues back, ask "why do you think that?"

Listen with an open heart.

Ask again, "Are you really sure?"

Wait.

If there's hesitation, continue with "let's take a closer look" and query the 'truth' of each statement. 

Are you telling yourself 'true' untruths?
If they're hampering your ability to feel happy, it might be time to sit down with a coffee and ask yourself a few gentle questions.

Envy is a strange thing.
Who knew that you could have neck-hair envy?

My wife and I were laughing last weekend because she loves how my hair comes to a point, but doesn't like hers as it's more of a horizontal line.

Of all the things to be envious of 🀣

She's not generally a jealous or envious person, so it really stuck out to me.

Are you?
How does it make you feel?
Unhappy because you're comparing yourself to someone else? If so, have you noticed the moment of change?

There is a split second of transition.

We're feeling happy enough. We see something that we like and our brains instantly start to talk to us, "I like that. I would love to have that. I wish I did. How did 'they' get that? Why don't I have that? I want it but I don't know how to get it. Why do I never get things like that? I always miss out. I wish I was as lucky as them. I can't ever get the things I want."

See the pattern?
We slowly spiral ourselves downwards with unhelpful, unproven and untrue statements that quickly decrease our emotional power.

If you find yourself doing this, catch it with the biggest softball glove you can find. The softness of the glove protects your heart a little more than its hardness into bare hands.

Catch it.

Say hello without judgement.

Ask it, "is that really true?"

If it argues back, ask "why do you think that?"

Listen with an open heart.

Ask again, "Are you really sure?"

Wait.

If there's hesitation, continue with "let's take a closer look" and query the 'truth' of each statement.

Are you telling yourself 'true' untruths?
If they're hampering your ability to feel happy, it might be time to sit down with a coffee and ask yourself a few gentle questions.
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Available online at Amazon, Book Depository, Barne Available online at Amazon, Book Depository, Barnes and Noble

Available online at Amazon, Book Depository, Barnes and Noble ...

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My favourite 4 year old provided the accessories f My favourite 4 year old provided the accessories for this photo. I mean, who doesn't want to be a unicorn?

Unicorn Cath says, "Remember to be whomever you are." 

Why waste a lifetime trying to be someone else? That sounds like too much hard work to me. 

πŸ’₯ Be you and be it well. πŸ’₯

My favourite 4 year old provided the accessories for this photo. I mean, who doesn't want to be a unicorn?

Unicorn Cath says, "Remember to be whomever you are."

Why waste a lifetime trying to be someone else? That sounds like too much hard work to me.

πŸ’₯ Be you and be it well. πŸ’₯
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I've been dreaming of Chile a lot lately.
Complicated dreams within dreams.

My birthday is in a few days and it's always a time for reflection.

This coffee mug, I bought in Chile when I returned to say goodbye to my dying father. It doesn't look much, just a small espresso-style mug, but for me it reminds me of the hardest thing I've ever done.....saying goodbye my dad. Him chatting and smiling with me, then me having to turn my back and walk out the door, both of us knowing that we would never see each other again.

Whilst it's an incredibly painful memory, it also makes me feel grounded. I know how much I was loved. I'm proud of the relationship we built and every time I'm cheeky, I'm reminded of how much I'm like him.

So often we shy away from painful things because, they're exactly that. Painful.

But they are also the place where we discover ourselves. I often think about how many people try to 'fix' emotional pain by ignoring it. All that does is put it in abeyance.

Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len* likens this process to deleting a file on your computer. You delete the file, but it only goes to the recycle bin. It's not erased. It's out of sight, but it stays on your system.

We do the same with pain. It needs cleaning, but you can't clean something until you first actually look at the dirt. Ignoring it doesn't make it go away. It only builds up. Once you could have walked barefoot through it and remain unscathed, now you're needing steel capped boots and wondering whether you can lift your feet. Am I right?

The inner work is hard, but it is doable. It's possible to come out the other side of the emotional wound. I've done it and I help my spiritual clients do it.

With me you get 'crock-of-shit-free' spiritual guidance. It's visceral, grounding and liberating. I believe in the benefits of this work so much that I even named my business after it.

'Crock-of-shit-free' Spiritual Guidance.
Yep. That's right. πŸ™‚

If you're interested in clearing the internal dis-ease that your emotional wounds bring or...... you just want to check out the reason behind the name 😁 check out:

drawntoastory.com/work-with-cath/spiritual-guidance
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