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identity. belonging. expat life.

Who you are. How you feel inside. Where you live.


As an artist, I illustrate and educate about marginalised experiences for positive change.

With a focus on identity, belonging and expat life, I help people to navigate ‘otherness’.

‘OTHERNESS’ isolates.

It creates division, prejudice and suffering.

We are all someone else’s ‘other’

Drawn to a Story exists to redress the imbalance

Let my clients tell you for themselves:

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Are you living by double standards?
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#doublestandard #lgbtqia #lgbt #ally #lgbtq🌈 #straightally #lgbtqpride #askyourself #inclusion
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Yes, I still have an address book.

It's never been about the address. My computer or phone can record that.

A hand-written address book however, tells a story.

Stories link to memories and memories shape us to create more stories and connections.

Imagine you've died and your child(ren) or loved ones are looking through your belongings. What do you think they choose to keep? A phone with typed addresses and previous addresses long deleted? OR.... your paper address book in which you have handwritten addresses and crossed out ones that tell a story of the richness of friendships and global life?

I know which one I'd fight you for.
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#expatlife #expat #expats #addressbook #handwriting #memoriesforlife #friendship #globalnomad #internationallife #liveabroad
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Never an easy question. How literal do you want me Never an easy question. How literal do you want me to be?

From my mum? From the place you think my skin colour comes from? From my mum and dad? From the place where a person dresses like me? From my dads? From an adoption agency? From donated sperm? From Montreal? From an apartment block? From the forest? From an island? From the place you think my accent is from? From the country in which I live or the one I call my womb home or the one where I went to university? Or perhaps the real question is 'which home? there are many.'

Never an easy question. How literal do you want me to be?

From my mum? From the place you think my skin colour comes from? From my mum and dad? From the place where a person dresses like me? From my dads? From an adoption agency? From donated sperm? From Montreal? From an apartment block? From the forest? From an island? From the place you think my accent is from? From the country in which I live or the one I call my womb home or the one where I went to university? Or perhaps the real question is 'which home? there are many.'
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"No one cares anymore".

I hear it often. I think everyone cares and here's why.
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#inclusion #lgbtq🌈 #lgbtq #identity #wellbeing #unconsciousbias #diversitymatters #discomfort #selfreflection
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It's time to bust some myths about intersex people It's time to bust some myths about intersex people.

MYTH 1: BEING INTERSEX IS VERY RARE
The number of intersex people globally is roughly 1.7% (as common as redheads 👩‍🦰). If that still feels small to you, by my calculations that's 134 Million 300 hundred thousand people. Still think it's small? These numbers are also likely larger as the majority of intersex people have typical genitalia and not all hospitals have specialist teams for assessment. Furthermore, where hospitals do have specialist assessment teams, physicians will often intervene and force surgeries on new borns to make them male or female.

MYTH 2: BEING INTERSEX MEANS THAT YOU'RE TRANSGENDER.
Being intersex relates to a person's sexual characteristics externally and internally. It has nothing to do with one's gender or who they are attracted to.To learn more look up Emily Quinn's TED Talk.

MYTH 3: IF YOU'RE BORN INTERSEX YOU NEED CORRECTIVE SURGERY.
Intersex people need to be able to make decisions about their own bodies. Amnesty International recognises such surgery as a violation of one's human rights. It can cause lifelong emotional and physical problems. 

MYTH 4: BEING INTERSEX IS JUST ABOUT GENITALIA AND HAVING 'BOTH' SETS OF GENITALIA.
It's not that simple. It's not about genitalia. It's about hormones, chromosomes, genitalia and secondary sex characteristics. There are 35+ variations of what it means to be intersex.

MYTH 5: YOU CAN TELL A PERSON IS INTERSEX JUST BY LOOKING AT THEM
You can't. Don't try to work it out either. Why do you need to know? Does it change how you choose to treat someone? 

MYTH 6: BEING INTERSEX IS JUST NEW TRENDY STUFF FROM WHITE PEOPLE
Intersex people exist all over the world and have always existed all around the world.

Intersex Awareness Day is 26 October. The flag is a purple circle on a yellow blackground. The colours are significant as they don't reinforce stereotypes. The circle is purposely complete and symbolises wholeness. 

Were any of your myths busted? Don't feel bad if they were. That's why I'm here to help. Together we make an inclusive world.
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#intersex #biologicalsexisnotbinary #lgbtqia #inclusion #intersexual #intersexisbeautiful

It's time to bust some myths about intersex people.

MYTH 1: BEING INTERSEX IS VERY RARE
The number of intersex people globally is roughly 1.7% (as common as redheads 👩‍🦰). If that still feels small to you, by my calculations that's 134 Million 300 hundred thousand people. Still think it's small? These numbers are also likely larger as the majority of intersex people have typical genitalia and not all hospitals have specialist teams for assessment. Furthermore, where hospitals do have specialist assessment teams, physicians will often intervene and force surgeries on new borns to make them male or female.

MYTH 2: BEING INTERSEX MEANS THAT YOU'RE TRANSGENDER.
Being intersex relates to a person's sexual characteristics externally and internally. It has nothing to do with one's gender or who they are attracted to.To learn more look up Emily Quinn's TED Talk.

MYTH 3: IF YOU'RE BORN INTERSEX YOU NEED CORRECTIVE SURGERY.
Intersex people need to be able to make decisions about their own bodies. Amnesty International recognises such surgery as a violation of one's human rights. It can cause lifelong emotional and physical problems.

MYTH 4: BEING INTERSEX IS JUST ABOUT GENITALIA AND HAVING 'BOTH' SETS OF GENITALIA.
It's not that simple. It's not about genitalia. It's about hormones, chromosomes, genitalia and secondary sex characteristics. There are 35+ variations of what it means to be intersex.

MYTH 5: YOU CAN TELL A PERSON IS INTERSEX JUST BY LOOKING AT THEM
You can't. Don't try to work it out either. Why do you need to know? Does it change how you choose to treat someone?

MYTH 6: BEING INTERSEX IS JUST NEW TRENDY STUFF FROM WHITE PEOPLE
Intersex people exist all over the world and have always existed all around the world.

Intersex Awareness Day is 26 October. The flag is a purple circle on a yellow blackground. The colours are significant as they don't reinforce stereotypes. The circle is purposely complete and symbolises wholeness.

Were any of your myths busted? Don't feel bad if they were. That's why I'm here to help. Together we make an inclusive world.
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#intersex #biologicalsexisnotbinary #lgbtqia #inclusion #intersexual #intersexisbeautiful
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It was ridiculously exciting. More than it should It was ridiculously exciting.
More than it should have been.

If nothing else, it showed me just how visceral our identity, memory and senses can be. 

Every time I use kecap manis, I'm taken instantly to my childhood home and the first time I made Chicken Hokkien Mee. I see the page in the recipe book and the kecap manis stain. I'm taken to the moment the book was given to me as a present. I'm taken to several locations where I bought coriander for the meal. 

I love the journey that a simple bottle of kecap manis can take me on. 
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#identity  #foodporn #kecapmanis #foodmemes #foodmemory #lovefood #cookery #cooking #expat #expatlife #globalnomad #nationalfood #internationallife

It was ridiculously exciting.
More than it should have been.

If nothing else, it showed me just how visceral our identity, memory and senses can be.

Every time I use kecap manis, I'm taken instantly to my childhood home and the first time I made Chicken Hokkien Mee. I see the page in the recipe book and the kecap manis stain. I'm taken to the moment the book was given to me as a present. I'm taken to several locations where I bought coriander for the meal.

I love the journey that a simple bottle of kecap manis can take me on.
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#identity #foodporn #kecapmanis #foodmemes #foodmemory #lovefood #cookery #cooking #expat #expatlife #globalnomad #nationalfood #internationallife
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The non-instagram version of life.

We need to see more of this reality. The 'perfection' (aka manipulation) of life on instagram is so damaging.

As global nomads or people who love to travel, we know the truth of lived experience. Even if it's awful at the time, we can laugh about it later when telling the story. It bonds us because we've been there too.

As humans we share and bond through stories, so when we see glamour as the norm, and we can't access that experience, it isolates.

I'm in full favour of the new wave of Instagram accounts that show 'real parenting' or the stupid things that happen in someone life. It's no wonder that these kinds of posts go viral. Quickly relatable (story), quickly shareable (human connection), and not filtered (truth).

So I encourage you, on your business pages, share your stories of you walking out the front door with toilet paper stuck in your trousers, share the funny things that happen to you with your kids or partner, and share the weirdness and wonderfulness of your life. It's not all about your product or service. Make yourself relatable, create connection and show people that you see them.

It really does go a long way. No not the vomit. Well, actually have you seen some of it?! 🤪🤢

But connection.... It goes a long way to creating community and clients.
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It seems that I need to reiterate a few things.

I welcome proper conversations, but....
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There was backlash! 😁 Trans people in bathroom There was backlash! 😁

Trans people in bathrooms is a hot topic for some. 

Wanna hear what happened? 
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 #lgbt #trans #transgirl #lgbtqia #lgbtqcommunity #transgender #transwoman #identity #inclusionmatters

There was backlash! 😁

Trans people in bathrooms is a hot topic for some.

Wanna hear what happened?
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#lgbt #trans #transgirl #lgbtqia #lgbtqcommunity #transgender #transwoman #identity #inclusionmatters
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There's something quite powerful knowing that you There's something quite powerful knowing that you can never revisit the places you once saw. 

It leads me to reflect upon how we behave when travelling:

👣 Am I present enough to fully soak it up?
👣 In what ways do I experience a place?
👣 Can I rely on unreliable memories? 
👣 What are my motivations for my visit?

We travel for all kinds of reasons. I used to work a lot in the cultural tourism sector. Tick-box tourism is common, as is judgement about how other people experience places.

Young people are often criticised for taking photos at historical sites of mass trauma, but we judge with our own lense. We all make meaning in different ways and memories aren't reliable. 

So the young person who takes a photo at Auschwitz, the Tuol Sleng Genocide Museum or similar, may actually be connecting more deeply than it seems.

Phone photos are private memories, accessible at any time. They also capture that moment in a way that a memory does not. A phone is also a shield to the horror you are  viewing. Seeing a place through the camera lense is a coping mechanism, separating you and protecting you until you're ready to revisit the images. 

So whether they know it or not, the people that take photos at 'dark tourism sites' may be more intune with their own emotions, memory making and well-being than we give them credit for.
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#expatlife #nomad #wellbeing #travelling #travel #expat #expatfamily #expatmom #memories #internationaltravel #belonging  #darktourism #phonecameraphotography

There's something quite powerful knowing that you can never revisit the places you once saw.

It leads me to reflect upon how we behave when travelling:

👣 Am I present enough to fully soak it up?
👣 In what ways do I experience a place?
👣 Can I rely on unreliable memories?
👣 What are my motivations for my visit?

We travel for all kinds of reasons. I used to work a lot in the cultural tourism sector. Tick-box tourism is common, as is judgement about how other people experience places.

Young people are often criticised for taking photos at historical sites of mass trauma, but we judge with our own lense. We all make meaning in different ways and memories aren't reliable.

So the young person who takes a photo at Auschwitz, the Tuol Sleng Genocide Museum or similar, may actually be connecting more deeply than it seems.

Phone photos are private memories, accessible at any time. They also capture that moment in a way that a memory does not. A phone is also a shield to the horror you are viewing. Seeing a place through the camera lense is a coping mechanism, separating you and protecting you until you're ready to revisit the images.

So whether they know it or not, the people that take photos at 'dark tourism sites' may be more intune with their own emotions, memory making and well-being than we give them credit for.
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#expatlife #nomad #wellbeing #travelling #travel #expat #expatfamily #expatmom #memories #internationaltravel #belonging #darktourism #phonecameraphotography
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You know that all kinds of relationships exist, bu You know that all kinds of relationships exist, but do you know what the different colours mean in the LGBTQ+ flags?
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Who do they represent?
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Here you go!
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Top Left - Gay men
Top Right - (L) pansexual and (R) Transgender
Bottom Left - (L) bisexual and (R) Lesbian
Bottom Right - (L) bisexual and (R) Straight ally

Were you right? Did you know any?

#lgbtqia #pansexualflag #trans #bisexual #gay #lesbian #prideflags #lgbtqmemes #identity #straightally #lgbtlove #loveislove #loveoneanother❤️

You know that all kinds of relationships exist, but do you know what the different colours mean in the LGBTQ+ flags?
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Who do they represent?
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Here you go!
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Top Left - Gay men
Top Right - (L) pansexual and (R) Transgender
Bottom Left - (L) bisexual and (R) Lesbian
Bottom Right - (L) bisexual and (R) Straight ally

Were you right? Did you know any?

#lgbtqia #pansexualflag #trans #bisexual #gay #lesbian #prideflags #lgbtqmemes #identity #straightally #lgbtlove #loveislove #loveoneanother❤️
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Looking forward to presenting at SENIA All-in conf Looking forward to presenting at SENIA All-in conference later this month in Bonn.
Hope to see you there!

Register at
http://www.seniaconference.eu/

Looking forward to presenting at SENIA All-in conference later this month in Bonn.
Hope to see you there!

Register at
http://www.seniaconference.eu/
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And we end with the Islamic pirate queen, Sayyida And we end with the Islamic pirate queen, Sayyida al Hurra.

52 weeks.
52 amazing women.
52 Frickin' Feisty Women who've left their mark on the world. 

I hope that these women from the past and today have inspired you. 

It is clear that there is still much to be done with women's equality, but wow there are incredible women out there!

Thank you for joining me on this journey of 52 women. 

Let's keep fighting. Let's keep supporting each other. Let's keep inspiring one another.

And we end with the Islamic pirate queen, Sayyida al Hurra.

52 weeks.
52 amazing women.
52 Frickin' Feisty Women who've left their mark on the world.

I hope that these women from the past and today have inspired you.

It is clear that there is still much to be done with women's equality, but wow there are incredible women out there!

Thank you for joining me on this journey of 52 women.

Let's keep fighting. Let's keep supporting each other. Let's keep inspiring one another.
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What to do when you think someone is in the wrong What to do when you think someone is in the wrong bathroom.

#transgender #lgbtq🌈 #allyship #trans #advice #mindyourownbusiness #Respect #inclusion #lgbtqmemes

What to do when you think someone is in the wrong bathroom.

#transgender #lgbtq🌈 #allyship #trans #advice #mindyourownbusiness #Respect #inclusion #lgbtqmemes
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Happy Father's Day to all the Australian and New Z Happy Father's Day to all the Australian and New Zealand dads with rainbow children.

Thank you for loving us. And for those of you who struggle to love your children for who they are, may your children find the love they need in their chosen family.

And to you, their dad.... 
May you come to your senses before it's too late to say I love you. 

#lgbtq #inclusion #dad #fatherhood #rainbowbaby #LGBTQ #parentallove #lgbtqyouth #lgbtqpride #lgbtqmemes

Happy Father's Day to all the Australian and New Zealand dads with rainbow children.

Thank you for loving us. And for those of you who struggle to love your children for who they are, may your children find the love they need in their chosen family.

And to you, their dad....
May you come to your senses before it's too late to say I love you.

#lgbtq #inclusion #dad #fatherhood #rainbowbaby #LGBTQ #parentallove #lgbtqyouth #lgbtqpride #lgbtqmemes
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It's weird what triggers memories and reflections about identity.

I love mail boxes because they instantly take me through a string of memories.
1. Posting postcards home when doing solo travel before I met my wife and also before I realised I am gay. I felt like an adult and also very Australian. Little did I know how much learning about life I still had to do.
2. As a child posting postcards on family holidays around the world. Little did I know I'd end up living outside of Australia.
3. Mailing letters to a range of friends I've met since living abroad. Realising that I'm now a very different person to the other two memories.

Mailboxes are multilayered - holders of stories, enablers of connection, places of mystery and messages, plus hot spots of emotions as hands slowly relinquish letters from their fingertips...the owner wondering what will come from the communication.

Love em or hate them, they facilitate human connection and for that I will always cherish them.

#mailbox #mail #postbox #postcard #snailmailrevolution #snailmail #handwritten #letter #travelpostcard
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Sometimes I hate expat life.

I found out this morning by chance that a good friend of mine died suddenly a while back.

I had hoped to see her when I next went home.

Living abroad is a good life.
Some days though, it completely sucks.

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