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identity. belonging. expat life.

Who you are. How you feel inside. Where you live.


As an artist, I illustrate and educate about marginalised experiences for positive change.

With a focus on identity, belonging and expat life, I help people to navigate ‘otherness’.

‘OTHERNESS’ isolates.

It creates division, prejudice and suffering.

We are all someone else’s ‘other’

Drawn to a Story exists to redress the imbalance

Let my clients tell you for themselves:

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What NOT to say as an LGBTQ+ ally. #lgbt #lgbtqal What NOT to say as an LGBTQ+ ally.

#lgbt #lgbtqally #lgbtallies #lgbtqpride #allyship #cathbrew #equality #diversityandinclusion #diversity

What NOT to say as an LGBTQ+ ally.

#lgbt #lgbtqally #lgbtallies #lgbtqpride #allyship #cathbrew #equality #diversityandinclusion #diversity
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🔥NEW EPISODE: Parenting a Trans Child🔥 Pare 🔥NEW EPISODE: Parenting a Trans Child🔥

Parenting is a tough job at the best of times, but add your child’s gender dysphoria and the social and cultural expectations and attitudes on top of that, and parenting changes a gear very quickly. 

Yes, we need to protect trans kids, but in doing that we also need to support their parents. What are they adjusting to and trying to navigate? 

🏳️‍⚧️ This week is an important conversation about parenting your trans child with real life experiences and insights for other parents and allies. Jennifer Killpack talks openly about her experiences of parenting a trans child and the issues her family has faced together.

👂LISTEN: via your podcast apps or via the link in bio

🔥NEW EPISODE: Parenting a Trans Child🔥

Parenting is a tough job at the best of times, but add your child’s gender dysphoria and the social and cultural expectations and attitudes on top of that, and parenting changes a gear very quickly.

Yes, we need to protect trans kids, but in doing that we also need to support their parents. What are they adjusting to and trying to navigate?

🏳️‍⚧️ This week is an important conversation about parenting your trans child with real life experiences and insights for other parents and allies. Jennifer Killpack talks openly about her experiences of parenting a trans child and the issues her family has faced together.

👂LISTEN: via your podcast apps or via the link in bio
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I'm recording podcast interviews today at the 'Add I'm recording podcast interviews today at the 'Addicts and Those Who Love Them' exhibition in Brighton.

Artist @antoniarolls featured in series 1 of my podcast Drawn to a Deeper Story and it is her exhibition that we are at today. 

I'm talking to people about their experiences with addiction, their responses to the exhibition and the emotional journey it takes them on.

👂Podcast link in bio.

#addiction #artist #brightonbeach #addict #loveforever #brightonfringe #exhibition #cathbrew #love #podcaster #podcasts

I'm recording podcast interviews today at the 'Addicts and Those Who Love Them' exhibition in Brighton.

Artist @antoniarolls featured in series 1 of my podcast Drawn to a Deeper Story and it is her exhibition that we are at today.

I'm talking to people about their experiences with addiction, their responses to the exhibition and the emotional journey it takes them on.

👂Podcast link in bio.

#addiction #artist #brightonbeach #addict #loveforever #brightonfringe #exhibition #cathbrew #love #podcaster #podcasts
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#mayonthemove2022 Topic: 'What I carry'

These two items I wear around my neck. A small clear quartz ball and an old key.

The key always attracts looks. When it was just the quartz, no one looked.

Both items go to the core of who I am. A shamanic practitioner and deep thinker. The quartz is about spiritual growth and clarity whilst the key is more about unlocking possibilities and potential. They both remind me that everything I need is within me.

They are 'what I carry', but in many ways they carry me. Helping me with every step forward, holding me when I step backwards and reminding me that sideways steps are also valid and important.

@thefrustratednester
@mother_city_time

#quartz #key #potential #spiritualgrowth #necklace #crystal #shamanic #spiritual #shamanicpractitioner #spirit #innergrowth
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Yes, there is still much inequality and discrimination in the UK, but the UK also does a lot right.

This coin is wonderful. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️
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#mayonthemove2022 Topic 'Play'

A few years ago I was missing a friend, so I drew her (accidentally badly!) 🤣 into the scene where I was working.

Sometimes all a woman can do is imagine a coffee with her friend....and try not to offend her with my smartphone drawing skills!

She's still speaks to me, but is yet to receive another drawing 😅

@thefrustratednester @mother_city_time
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**Trigger Warning** This episode mentions and refe **Trigger Warning** This episode mentions and refers to sexual abuse'
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💥 NEW EPISODE - 'False Memories and Contested Sexual Abuse' 💥
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This week, Kevin Felstead shares the complexities of working with false memory cases within the UK legal system. 

False memory isn't a subject you hear much about. If you haven't heard about it, consider yourself lucky. Its impact on the individuals involved and their families can be catastrophic, not to mention the cost to the justice system.

Kevin clarifies the difference between false memory allegations and real cases of sexual abuse. In talking about the implications of false memory, Kevin also introduces listeners to the work of the British False Memory Society. 

👂LISTEN: via your podcast apps or via the link in my bio.

**Trigger Warning** This episode mentions and refers to sexual abuse'
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💥 NEW EPISODE - 'False Memories and Contested Sexual Abuse' 💥
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This week, Kevin Felstead shares the complexities of working with false memory cases within the UK legal system.

False memory isn't a subject you hear much about. If you haven't heard about it, consider yourself lucky. Its impact on the individuals involved and their families can be catastrophic, not to mention the cost to the justice system.

Kevin clarifies the difference between false memory allegations and real cases of sexual abuse. In talking about the implications of false memory, Kevin also introduces listeners to the work of the British False Memory Society.

👂LISTEN: via your podcast apps or via the link in my bio.
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#mayonthemove2022 Topic: Thresholds This tshirt o #mayonthemove2022 Topic: Thresholds

This tshirt of mine says everything I need to know about thresholds.

Thresholds can be very important but also quite dull... like a tax threshold 😴. However, what I love about thresholds 'from the heart' is that they are ever expansive. Our ability to love has no bounds. We love. We forgive. We grow. We love deeper. 

The threshold from the heart has an infinite ability to change.

It expands, it retracts, it explodes with joy and connection, it retreats, it roars with passion, it hates, it delights, it tells you the truth even when you don't want it to. 

It's a superb communicator with a remarkably agile threshold.

Get to know it well.💙

@thefrustratednester
@mother_city_time

#fromtheheart #love #loveyourself #heart #threshold #heartcentered #cathbrew #passion #human #humaninterest #listentoyourheart

#mayonthemove2022 Topic: Thresholds

This tshirt of mine says everything I need to know about thresholds.

Thresholds can be very important but also quite dull... like a tax threshold 😴. However, what I love about thresholds 'from the heart' is that they are ever expansive. Our ability to love has no bounds. We love. We forgive. We grow. We love deeper.

The threshold from the heart has an infinite ability to change.

It expands, it retracts, it explodes with joy and connection, it retreats, it roars with passion, it hates, it delights, it tells you the truth even when you don't want it to.

It's a superb communicator with a remarkably agile threshold.

Get to know it well.💙

@thefrustratednester
@mother_city_time

#fromtheheart #love #loveyourself #heart #threshold #heartcentered #cathbrew #passion #human #humaninterest #listentoyourheart
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#mayonthemove2022
Topic: 'Delightful Discoveries'

In recent years I've discovered my playful side. Actually, that's not true. It's always been there, but I didn't give myself permission to let it out.

It's well and truly out now! 😂
If you haven't experienced it yet, I'm sorry...and if you have experienced it, I'm even more sorry. 😆

But I do love being authentically me and not hiding. It's so much more enjoyable too.

Stay tuned as more and more is unleashed! 😉

@thefrustratednester @mother_city_time
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#mayonthemove2022 Topic: 'BORDERS'

In expat circles, borders are often described as physical boundaries between countries, but to me, a far greater border are emotional ones.

The borders which welcome some people but not others. Or worse, say they welcome all, but actually don't. A fallacy. A fallacy that plays mind games with those who don't fit the mould.

I know the church offers great comfort to many people, but I also know of the wounds it creates...and the many people who have been cast out, emotionally burnt by the church, only to find themselves on the other side of being accepted, or worse still, 'tolerated'.

And the bigger problem is the promise - the invitation that promises security and safety, but depending on who you are, delivers persecution, emotional abuse, and being ostracised.

It's a bigger problem because it encourages vulnerability, then rejects those same people for being authentic and sharing that vulnerability. They are LGBTQ+ people. Invited in when they were thought to be cis-gendered and heterosexual. Cast out and over the border 'to be prayed for' when it is found out you're not.

I know there are exceptions to the rule, but when the majority experience is about being turned away, spiritually abused, emotionally and physically wounded, and rejected, I don't care about the exceptions. There are too many 'over the border' healing the wounds created at the hands of the church.

@thefrustratednester @mother_city_time

#lgbt #churchabuse #spiritual #spiritualabuse #conversiontherapy #diversityandinclusion
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🔥Claim your 20% off discount!!🔥
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The DTAS shop turned 2 this week.
As a thank you for your support, I'm giving you: 20% off everything in store!!
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THE OFFER:
💃 20% off everything in store!*
💃 At checkout use the code: celebrate2022
💃 Valid 11 May 2022 - midnight 18 May 2022^
💃 We ship anywhere in the world.
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In store, you’ll find lots of expat and TCK themed gifts, tshirts, coffee cups, laptop sleeves, journals and LGBTQ+ ally merchandise.
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SHOP NOW - link in bio.
🥳😍🎊💃

Terms:
* The code is valid for 1 user & for 1 use only. 
^ London time.
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The Drawn to a Story gift store turned 2 years old The Drawn to a Story gift store turned 2 years old today! 🥳
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I'm inviting you to celebrate with me.🎊
As a thank you to my followers, I'm giving you: 
20% off everything in store!! 
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THE OFFER:
🔥 20% off everything in store!*
🔥 At checkout use the code: celebrate2022
🔥 Valid 11 May 2022 - midnight 18 May 2022^
🔥 We ship anywhere in the world. 
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* The code is valid for one user & for one use only. 
^ London time. 
.
In store, you’ll find lots of expat and TCK themed gifts, tshirts, coffee cups, laptop sleeves, journals and LGBTQ+ ally merchandise. 
.
SHOP NOW - link in bio.
🥳😍🎊💃

The Drawn to a Story gift store turned 2 years old today! 🥳
.
I'm inviting you to celebrate with me.🎊
As a thank you to my followers, I'm giving you:
20% off everything in store!!
.
THE OFFER:
🔥 20% off everything in store!*
🔥 At checkout use the code: celebrate2022
🔥 Valid 11 May 2022 - midnight 18 May 2022^
🔥 We ship anywhere in the world.
.
* The code is valid for one user & for one use only. 
^ London time.
.
In store, you’ll find lots of expat and TCK themed gifts, tshirts, coffee cups, laptop sleeves, journals and LGBTQ+ ally merchandise.
.
SHOP NOW - link in bio.
🥳😍🎊💃
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#mayonthemove2022 'EASE'

Some weeks are about bringing 'ease' into your life - a week of rest, housesitting for friends.

🎨 Painting. 🌮 Eating. 🍷Drinking. 🛁 Baths.
☕️ Coffee. 📖 Books. 💤 Sleeping. 🌳 Trees.

These are the only essentials for this week.

#rest #holiday #selfcare #artist #selfemployed #selfemployedlife #metime💕

@thefrustratednester @mother_city_time
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🔥 NEW EPISODE: Polyamory Families and Relationships' 🔥

In the media, 'family' mostly constitutes the hetero-normative family, but what about polyamorous families and relationships?

Can you remember the last time you saw these types of relationships on TV or in the newspaper? No I can't either.

In this episode, Adrienne Sweetwater @asweetwater talks about being in a poly triad. She shares how her queer identity intersects with being an adult third culture kid and having a global mindset.

Adrienne offers insights into the difference between one's different emotional and physical needs plus the complexity and importance of legal protection for poly families living globally mobile lives.

And if you're not in a poly relationship and don't quite know what to say when you find out someone is, she gives us all a great way to answer!

Listen via your podcast app or podcast link in my bio.
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#mayonthemove2022 'CHALLENGE'

To me 'Challenge' is about being 'out'. It's about the challenge of the inner work that leads you to growth and knowing who you are. Have you ever had to 'out' yourself? In what context?

And every one of these 'outs' has been a challenge because for each of these things I have been judged.

For me my 'outs' are being:

💥 a gay woman
💥 a shamanic practioner
💥 someone who's had panic attacks, depression and anxiety
💥 a woman who supports trans people
💥 a Remainer (not a Brexit supporter)
💥 a person who talks about their sexuality
💥 non Christian
💥 a woman without children
💥 a supporter of the Muslim community
💥 an Australian
💥 a woman who knows her own mind
💥 a woman. Full stop.
💥 a larger woman
💥 someone who hates wearing dresses
💥 someone who prefers jeans and a shirt
💥 a person who swears/cusses
💥 someone who will not compromise their principles
💥 a person who speaks up when silence would be easier, but complicit.

You know what? In many ways I'm sick of having to 'out' myself.

I'm much more interested in a positive exchange where both parties feel equal.
Whenever there's an 'outing' there's an imbalance because one person waits to see if their 'outing' will be accepted.

So my 'CHALLENGE' to you is to create a space where the people you interact with, don't have to 'out' themselves to you.

They don't have to validate themselves or try to manage your response, because you've actually managed it yourself. Be aware of your words, your tone, your facial expressions and your body language. It's all an exchange of energy that sometimes is best kept to yourself.

@thefrustratednester @mother_city_time
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Some days you just need to hide under a blanket on Some days you just need to hide under a blanket on the sofa. Allow yourself the space to feel like unwell, allow your low mood, allow your mind to rest.

Give yourself permission to take time for you. Listening to your body is some of the best self-care you can give yourself.

#selfcare #rest #wellbeing #permission #bodyhealth #lowmood #downday #hermit #sofaday #mentalhealth #cathbrew #expat #expatlife

Some days you just need to hide under a blanket on the sofa. Allow yourself the space to feel like unwell, allow your low mood, allow your mind to rest.

Give yourself permission to take time for you. Listening to your body is some of the best self-care you can give yourself.

#selfcare #rest #wellbeing #permission #bodyhealth #lowmood #downday #hermit #sofaday #mentalhealth #cathbrew #expat #expatlife
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TALK-BACK TUESDAY: LGBTQ+ chat in 60 secs! TALK-BACK TUESDAY:
LGBTQ+ chat in 60 secs!

TALK-BACK TUESDAY:
LGBTQ+ chat in 60 secs!
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