identity. belonging. expat life.
Who you are. How you feel inside. Where you live.
As an artist, I illustrate and educate about marginalised experiences for positive change.
With a focus on identity, belonging and expat life, I help people to navigate ‘otherness’.
It creates division, prejudice and suffering.
We are all someone else’s ‘other’
Drawn to a Story exists to redress the imbalance
Let my clients tell you for themselves:
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What are the impacts of your decisions?
Are you aware of their potential impacts? ...
People will often say, "I don't have a problem with gay people" or "You can be whomever you want" and then we wait.....
We wait for the 'BUT' that so often follows a big claim of allyship.
It comes as intentional words, "but I don't see why gay people have to xyz" or "but I don't want it in my face."
It also comes through in a more subtle way. They don't realise, but the words or actions that follow show their bias or how they really feel.
Inclusion is not just words. It's actions. It's listening to how your body reacts when it shows you that you still have some work to do. It's about reflecting on thoughts, not being triggered by them.
I'm not here to point fingers. Inclusion is a process.
A great first step though is to check in with your double standards.
And so Rainbow Roo asks you to check your double standards.
How rainbow RU?
#inclusion #lgbtqia #Dei #doublestandards #DoubleStandards #InclusionMatters #inclusionmatters #ally #lgbtqiaplus #belief #inclusive #gaypeople #PDOA #pdoa ...
In Chile, my dad always joked that Spanish was easy because little kids spoke it 🤣 ...
What do you do when.......
Confronted by religious people.....?
#LGBTQPride #DEI #LGBTQ #allyship #gaychristian #GayChristian #inclusion #queerchristian #QueerChristian #kindness ...
One of the biggest barriers to trans and non-binary people is healthcare.
Trans men can find themselves missing out on lifesaving scans and screenings like pap smears and mammograms. It can be a fight to even be seen by a doctor. Once you've managed to get an appointment, the experience of attending may be stressful with crowded waiting rooms. Some trans patients ask for appointments at the end of the day to avoid these scenarios.
In the UK's National Health Service, medical records are only 'male' or 'female'. As a trans man, if you are registered 'male', but have not had gender affirming surgery, you will not receive the automatic invitations for pap smears and mammograms.
The NHS records allow you to change your gender, but only to the binary 'male' or 'female', not trans or non-binary. Once you've changed your gender on your medical record you are issued with a new NHS number. This also means that your registered gender now does not facilitate invites and referrals to your biological sex and the associated care your body needs.
Health insurance companies are similar. If you have existing cover as 'female' and transition to male, many insurance companies will then not offer you cover for 'female' medical issues.
Comprehensive healthcare and healthcare systems for trans people need to encompass gender AND biological sex. They are not mutually exclusive.
UK law does not recognise non-binary genders. 'The Gender Recognition Act 2004 enables a person to change the sex recorded on their birth certificate, either from male to female or vice versa. It makes no provision for the recognition of any other gender'.* This then bleeds into all UK government services and systems.
This is why the current Gender Recognition Reform Bill in Scotland is so important. Trans people have the chance to access a healthcare system that doesn't discriminate.
If you live in Scotland, please write to your MPs and show your support for the bill. And if you don't live in Scotland, write to your MP anyway. Make them realise the importance of healthcare to their trans constituents.
* https://commonslibrary.parliament.uk/research-briefings/cbp-9515/ ...
Being lonely in a crowded room is hard.
I think it takes you to intense emotions quite quickly.
Hurt? Anger? Frustration? Feeling less than?
And the more these emotions flood in, the more you want people to see you, but the more you try to be seen, the more you feel you aren't.
It's a tough one that I always think take you to dig deep. It's hard to acknowledge the hurt and not attribute blame to the others in the room. However, with a little bravery you can work out why you feel how you do, what are the emotions really masking and what you can do about it.
Or go down the route of self care. Leave early, be kind to yourself and give yourself space to just allow the difficult emotions. Tomorrow is always a new day. ...
Oh, the awkwardness of this scenario.
Many a time 🙋♀️
I've now decided that I just have to have no shame. ...
CIS and TRANS merely come from Latin.
Cis - on this side of
Trans - on the other side of
So all it means that a cis person lives as the same gender that was assumed at birth, whilst a trans person lives a different gender that was assumed at birth.
Cis people who have a problem with being called cis don't like it because it means that they have to acknowledge that they are no longer the default gender.
It also shows that they think that 'trans' is a slur, so they associate 'cis' with the same way that they use 'trans'.
As a cis person our gender is not undermined by the existence of trans people. All that is happening is that trans people are rightly claiming their gender in a world where cis people have assumed that they were the only ones.
💥 And fun fact.....
Cis and trans are used in chemistry to describe isomers in molecules. Cis isomers contain functional groups on the same side of the carbon chain whilst trans isomers are on opposite sides.
#transisbeautiful #TransKidsMatter #transkidsmatter #trangenderrightsarehumanrights #cisgender #chemistry #transwoman #TransWoman #TransMan #transman #lgbtqally #transinclusive #TransInclusion ...
What do you do when....
the rumour mill is active?
#Gossip #rumours #Bullying #lgbtqiaplus #LGBTPlus #SomePeopleAreGay #visibility #somepeoplearegay #LGBTQPride #SpeakUp #lgbtqcommunity #LGBTQ #LGBTQCommunity #lgbtqPlus #lgbtqally #LGBTQAlly #inclusion #ActiveAllyship ...
FIFA is a prime example of what NOT to do.
Any Pride events they have held in the past have now lost their value.
To be an ally, your actions need to be consistent.
Allyship does not give with one hand and take with another.
Allyship is for always.
FIFA photo: From FIFA's website.
#lgbtqia #LGBTQAllyship #inclusionmatters #InclusionMatters #ally #inclusion #lgbtqcommunity #allyshipisloud #Allyship ...
Who's been here? - when everything just suddenly hits your limit and you can't hold it all in anymore.
Mine was snapping at a volunteer when we went to vote. I was embarrassed by my behaviour. She didn't know that I didn't know how the voting system worked, but a slightly different tone from her made me react badly. It was just one more thing I didn't know about and the shifting sands of transition dropped me in a massive hole and saw a snapping crocodile come lashing out.
I didn't like that day. ...
Why do they insist on only giving you a a few spaces? ...
The 'detransition narrative' is so often a mask for transphobia.
It needs to stop. The statistics show otherwise.
#transphobia #LGBTQPride #transkids #TransKids #transgender #transkidsmatter #TransKidsMatter #Trans #inclusionmatters #InclusionMatters #LGBTQ+Ally #lgbtqally
#queerownedbusiness #transwoman #TransWoman #QueerOwnedBusiness ...
It's Transgender Awareness Week!
This week leads up to Transgender Day of Remembrance on 20 November which memorializes victims of transphobic violence.
Trans voices need to be heard. Their lived experiences are an important part of true LGBTQ+ inclusion.
Words are taken from videos publicly available on YouTube. In the order of the cartoons - Thank you Anon, Alec, Jackson and Hannah for sharing your stories.
#trans #TransDayofAwareness #Inclusion #transgirl #TransBoy #TransKidsMatter #transkidsmatter #lgbtqpride #InclusionMatters #inclusionmatters #TransSpaces #transspaces #Transgender #transawarenessweek2022 #TransAlly #transallyship ...
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Except, I said it about my friend. She wouldn't have known as it was in Spanish, but I thought it was funny so I dug myself an even deeper hole and told her what I'd said.
I survived 😁
She thought it was funny too. ...
I'm not sure that family members realise the pressure that these kinds of comments make.
But I also think they trigger 'the expat' because we are all too aware of the distance. I'm not saying that everyone feels this way, but I know that for many expats there is a guilt about being away from extended family, ageing parents and friends. And a comment like this hits, particularly if you are wrestling with guilt.
There's also a lot of family and friends who don't necessarily understand how much you've changed or that you're life is very different now. Sometimes hard conversations are needed to talk through how these comments make you feel. They may irritate you, but commonly come from a good place. A place of missing you. ...