Valuing Motherhood over Womanhood

Episode 3: Valuing Motherhood Over Womanhood with Sarah Black

Women are commonly asked, “do you have children?” It’s a loaded fact-checking question and the woman’s answer hovers as a tenuous balancing point from which they know there are two choices, being met with approval or judged.

In this episode, Sarah talks honestly about the prejudice she faces in being a woman without children. She shares personal stories about her experiences, when and why she’s felt most judged, as well as explaining why she’s the person you especially want in your life.

On the ‘do you have children?’ question:

I have never lost a pregnancy had a miscarriage or lost a child, but there are people who have, and I cannot begin to imagine how difficult those questions are for them or how triggering.

– Sarah Black

Listen in to this episode to understand why society needs to do better. WE need to do better. Sarah’s experiences shine a light on how a woman’s purpose is viewed, why that can be so damaging, and how everyone can see women as much more than just ‘baby machines’.

In This Episode:

  • Types of prejudice that childless women face
  • The power of challenging assumptions
  • Improve your communication upon meeting women
  • Benefits of non-parental relationships with children

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Episode information

Music by Grant McLachlan

Mentioned in the podcast:

Share the Love – blogpost about pregnancy troubles as the expat

Resources:

UK

The Miscarriage Association – Support and resources

Tommy’s – Baby Loss Support

SANDS – Stillbirth and neonatal death (information/support)

The Child Death Helpline – support regardless of when the loss occurred

Adoption UK – Support and advocacy for those parenting or supporting children who cannot live with their birth parents

New Family Social – information/support for LGBT+ adoptive & foster families

Samaritans – FREE Help – Tel: 116 123, E: jo@samaritans.org

NHS Depression Support Groups

NHS Mental Health Services

The British Psychology Society – Find a Psychologist

Australia

Pregnancy Birth and Baby – information and support for parents

Mensline – help, support, referrals and counselling for men

IVF Australia

SANDS – Miscarriage, stillbirth and newborn death support

Beyond Blue – Mental health support

Headspace – National Youth Mental Health Foundation with support services

The Black Dog Institute – Medical health resources, services and research

SANE Australia – Counselling support, Tel: 1800 187 263 (10am – 10pm)

USA

Share Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support

March of Dimes – Pregnancy Health

The Compassionate Friends – Support for Loss generally

Very Well Family – Support for Pregnancy and Parenting

American Psychologist Association – Psychologist Finder

OR contact medical services in your country.